Part 2 of Reflections : A close separation...
Intro
Part 1
I grew up not being close wif my elder sister, as there wasn't a big gap between us and she was a dumb ass even till today as i define it...Maybe because she is more conservative then I am and feels she is right just because she is older...WHy should I give a shit for an attitude like that.. So I can safely tell that me and my sister grew up beeing arch nemesis than siblings...and spent most of our life time not talking rather than chit chatting...
Anyway that was in the past. When my sister got married I reconcilled and gave face to her..>She is still the same old dumb girl, with dumb remarks who thinks every one else is stupid just because she is older...Yeah whatever....But nevertheless I am more matured this time around to just take things calmly and ignore those unwanted tantrums... So I wouldn't say we became closer, but we were definitely in talking terms now...Much better than it used to be...
But things came to me when my mom was in the hospital...I took 4 days annual leave just to look after my mom...but my sis...well she just visited my mom once....Maybe if she was still single it would have been different and she would have visited her everyday...But putting myself in her situation, I think even though I might not have taken 4 days off, but I still would have visited my mom everyday till she gets better...No matter what excuses my sister may have up in her sleeve...it just isn't good enough...What if my parents ought to have given us some excuses when we were sick...They didnt..and I dont see why must I spare...
People alike my background often mentiones that once a girl is married, her husband is her whole world and her in-laws will be her parents...I thought it was just and illustration to how important the in-laws and husband should be...But I was wrong...Looks like they meant it for real...
Well thank god I am a guy, so I wouldnt have that silly issue up in my mind, but even if it's my wife's parents I would also wanna love them like my own without neglecting my real parents...And I wouldn't want my wife to neglect her parents just to look after mine...Who ever said there couldn't be balance in affections..
I recall when I had gf...I always wanted to look after her parents like my own...I wished her parents would have given me the chance...But well it didnt work out...They didnt give me the chance, and she didnt know how I felt..
Anyway, back to the topic...my visions are clearer now....my family is losing their daughter ...like it or not...one way or another...I guess everyone noticed this...but too pained to talk about it and admit to the fact...It must have been pretty hard hit especially for my dad as he loves my sis the most....I remember during our younger days how my dad will apologize from my sister just after scolding her....But I never got that treatment...He will bash me up, play football with me and even asked me to get out from the house...But never once has he ever apologized to me...Talk about fair treatment heh....
Well anyway I guess my whole family is putting up some mask to cover the sadness in them losing their daughter...Well like I said I was never close enough to miss her presence..so it is of a very trivial matter to me...But to my parents it is a big step...What can we do...the nature has to take its course
One way or another, the true tone of reality will come to pass....
Part 1
I grew up not being close wif my elder sister, as there wasn't a big gap between us and she was a dumb ass even till today as i define it...Maybe because she is more conservative then I am and feels she is right just because she is older...WHy should I give a shit for an attitude like that.. So I can safely tell that me and my sister grew up beeing arch nemesis than siblings...and spent most of our life time not talking rather than chit chatting...
Anyway that was in the past. When my sister got married I reconcilled and gave face to her..>She is still the same old dumb girl, with dumb remarks who thinks every one else is stupid just because she is older...Yeah whatever....But nevertheless I am more matured this time around to just take things calmly and ignore those unwanted tantrums... So I wouldn't say we became closer, but we were definitely in talking terms now...Much better than it used to be...
But things came to me when my mom was in the hospital...I took 4 days annual leave just to look after my mom...but my sis...well she just visited my mom once....Maybe if she was still single it would have been different and she would have visited her everyday...But putting myself in her situation, I think even though I might not have taken 4 days off, but I still would have visited my mom everyday till she gets better...No matter what excuses my sister may have up in her sleeve...it just isn't good enough...What if my parents ought to have given us some excuses when we were sick...They didnt..and I dont see why must I spare...
People alike my background often mentiones that once a girl is married, her husband is her whole world and her in-laws will be her parents...I thought it was just and illustration to how important the in-laws and husband should be...But I was wrong...Looks like they meant it for real...
Well thank god I am a guy, so I wouldnt have that silly issue up in my mind, but even if it's my wife's parents I would also wanna love them like my own without neglecting my real parents...And I wouldn't want my wife to neglect her parents just to look after mine...Who ever said there couldn't be balance in affections..
I recall when I had gf...I always wanted to look after her parents like my own...I wished her parents would have given me the chance...But well it didnt work out...They didnt give me the chance, and she didnt know how I felt..
Anyway, back to the topic...my visions are clearer now....my family is losing their daughter ...like it or not...one way or another...I guess everyone noticed this...but too pained to talk about it and admit to the fact...It must have been pretty hard hit especially for my dad as he loves my sis the most....I remember during our younger days how my dad will apologize from my sister just after scolding her....But I never got that treatment...He will bash me up, play football with me and even asked me to get out from the house...But never once has he ever apologized to me...Talk about fair treatment heh....
Well anyway I guess my whole family is putting up some mask to cover the sadness in them losing their daughter...Well like I said I was never close enough to miss her presence..so it is of a very trivial matter to me...But to my parents it is a big step...What can we do...the nature has to take its course
One way or another, the true tone of reality will come to pass....
posted by devilwitattitude at 8:30 AM
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